As Salaamu ‘Alaykum Ladies,
I would like to talk with you all about something i believe will help us better ourselves a bit more.
Every one of us has different personalities, characteristics, and mannerisms. These are in part what makes us the type of women we are.
Now although we’ve briefly touched on some beautiful characteristics that we should all strive to attain , I believe sharing what we DON’T want to be like is important as well.
After all, “A thing is made clear by its opposites .”
That being said lets just jump right into the seven types of women we do not EVER want to be. Here they are below into detail;
1) AL-ANNANAH- This type of woman is a lady who is always complaining. Pretending to be sick all the time. She overly expresses how she “doesn’t feel well.” This is ALWAYS her condition.
2) Al-MANNAANAH- A woman who persistently reminds everyone around her how much she does for everyone. Always feeling “under appreciated.”
3) AL-HANNAANAH- A very nostalgic woman. She’s always missing for things she doesn’t have anymore after had not appreciating it when she did have it. This type of woman may find her self repeatedly getting married.
4) HADDAAQAH- A high maintenance woman whom is NEVER satisfied. No matter what she purchases, what she gets of material, its never good enough for her. She doesn’t make due with what she has so she’s always in need of money to buy more.
5) BARRAAQAH- “Miss Phony Boloney.” She has fake hair, fake nails, high heels, she’s just all around fake. She’s called barraaQah because she spends a lot of time fixing her face. She does this so much so that she even has a fake complexion. She has no self esteem and ungrateful to Allaah and those around her. By the time she undresses for her husband, the husband asks “who is this woman?” Asking her this because he cannot recognize his wife anymore after having had peeled off all her fakeness! (For the record this isn’t really a word but I had to use it ahahaa!)
6) SHADDAAQAH- “MISSES QUICK WIT ATTACHED TO HER LIPS” This is a female who ALWAYS has something to say. She simply MUST get the last word. She’s always opposing her husband and those around her. Head snapping, hips switching, finger pointing…. and its embarrassing.
7) KANNAANAH- She’s always bringing up how things “used to be” with someone else. Comparing her husband to her dad, or male relatives or even an ex-husband. She does this in a manner to belittle.
Many women may be reading this pondering and even surprised that she may fall into one or more of these. Or maybe even a mix … half one type and half another.! This is expected and if your reading this article and applied this to yourself first, then surely your on the right track to self betterment in shaa Allaah.
On the other hand, if you read this saying “my home girl such and such does this” then this is something that needs correction. We should always look to ourselves first in anything we learn. How can our own backyard stay clean if we are always so busy peering into someone else’s?
Looking into these seven types of women when we look to ourselves or even our own daughters that we are raising, we need to take accountability. When we KNOW better we DO better. Honestly sometimes all it takes is someone to point us in the right direction for us to see where we need some adjustments within.
These seven types of women are deadly and are NOT marriage material for any good man. Yet and still we actually see these types of women ALL the time! Like its actually normal. These characteristics are not mannerisms we should be proud of and most of all Allaah is not happy with us if we behave like these type of women.
We can also see that there is a pattern of being ungrateful within these categories of women. And so we definitely need to strive to be more grateful to Allaah and those around us.
There will be other articles in shaa Allaah on ways to do away with being this type of female. In the meantime, please understand that the prophet has already advised us on the severity of our condition as women if we fall into these types of categories above. The prophet mentioned;
It was narrated that ‘Abd-Allah ibn ‘Abbas (may Allah be pleased with him) said: The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said: “I was shown Hell and I have never seen anything more terrifying than it. And I saw that the majority of its people are women.” They said, “Why, O Messenger of Allah?” He said, “Because of their ingratitude (kufr).” It was said, “Are they ungrateful to Allah?” He said, “They are ungrateful to their companions (husbands) and ungrateful for good treatment. If you are kind to one of them for a lifetime then she sees one (undesirable) thing in you, she will say, ‘I have never had anything good from you.’” (Narrated by al-Bukhari, 1052)
With this in mind, may Allaah protect and save us from being anything like these seven types of women and may he raise us to be of those women whom Allaah is pleased with Aameen.
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