⛓️💥Do not despair about getting married. Just as you would not despair about Allaah providing any of your other needs such as money.
⛓️💥This is because marriage is a provision from Allaah like anything else that we need from Him.
⛓️💥Allaah is as we think of Him to be so we need to think good of Allaah at all times.
⛓️💥Before the people in the back come for me about how:
🛡️“Marriage is not for me.”
🛡️“Good spouses are hard to come by. “
🛡️“Everyone’s a narcissist.”
🛡️“I was damaged by my last marriage.” …… Etc etc
⛓️💥Yes you are right! These things do happen all the time but it doesn’t mean that it must happen or that it will happen again.
⛓️💥Understand that since we do not know the unseen of how half these marriages end or why, sometimes it’s more than meets the eye about why these people get divorced.
⛓️💥Sometimes a person had to go through those marital issues before they could properly appreciate the spouse that is good for them.
⛓️💥Other times the person themselves are the problem and they never even learned the lesson of this unfortunately. So they go on remarrying deeming everyone else to be the problem.
⛓️💥In addition, yes, there are in fact some who just need to be by themselves for whatever reasons that they and Allaah know of.
⛓️💥But this message is not for those who do not desire marriage or those who should stay alone….
⛓️💥This message is for those who truly yearn for marriage and have been losing hope that they’ll ever find someone.
⛓️💥Hold on! Do not despair! Allaah provides and He knows what you need. Do not let bad experiences or scary stories from bitter people deter you from the blessings of Allaah.
⛓️💥Learn from what you’ve been through in your life and move on. Become better. Do not settle into a lowly place and grow angry about the concept of marriage.
⛓️💥Likewise do not be delusional. You know you have issues please do not pretend that you don’t. . We all do. If in fact you are self aware enough to know that you have issues too, then know that you cannot go on carrying those issues into relationships expecting good results.
⛓️💥No one owes it to you to keep dealing with your harm and possibly this is why you are alone… maybe it’s a protection from harming others. This is what happens when you don’t learn the lesson.
⛓️💥In the end marriage is a tool. It is a means to a greater good. A partnership and team effort to get to the Jannah together. It’s got a whole lot of additional perks too such as companionship and love. And if you’re not in it for that, then what’s it all for?
⛓️💥Yes this is all easier said than done but you know what? It’ll never change until you change your mindset and intentions.
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