As salaamu ‘alaykum السلام عليكم ,
هَلْ جَزَاءالْإِحْسَانِ إِلاّالْإِحْسَانُ
“Is not the reward for good other than good?”
Soorah RaHmaan: Ayah 60
Good actions are contagious. When one person does a good action toward someone else, the next person learns that action and shares it with another person. Likewise with validating the good in one another. Once you share those positive vibes, it spreads to others. And this is the reward of good, it goes around and comes back to you.
Validation; Recognition or affirmation that a person or their feelings or opinions are valid or worthwhile.Do we validate one another? Do we encourage the strengths that we all have and support in the areas we are weak in?
It’s so easy to find fault. Or to point out the weaknesses in one another. But when do we mention the GOOD of someone? Or how far they’ve come. And how much they mean to you….
It seems that some people have difficulty with sharing positivity toward each other. Ultimately this causes a lot of negative criticism and can break a persons self esteem down. Where’s the balance between giving SINCERE advice (that is stern when needed), and praise of a persons efforts?
In a society where talking everyone’s business over tea has become the norm, we find struggle with sharing kindness. Tearing each other down Is what causes division and when there’s division, overall growth in the community cannot take place.
On the flip side, just as soon as you mention what someone should improve on , now you’re “judging” them. Some have become so broken and sensitive to ANY criticism that everything seems like an attack. In reality, you could just be trying to protect that person and help them.
Where lies the balance between these extremes? Firstly, “It’s not WHAT you say it’s HOW you say it.” Deliverance is key! Two people can say the same exact statement but depending on how it was conveyed will determine if the person will accept it or not.
There’s a time and place for everything. We don’t have to say something about each and every thing we see and hear. Whether good or bad. To gage this, ask yourself before commenting “Will this help the situation or not?”
Lastly , we need to encourage one another. Tell each other how good of a job they did. Sharing how much you’ve learned and benefitted from each others strengths and advices. How much that person means to you and how they’ve added value to your life. And when you see a loved one struggling, don’t tear them down and be happy about it rather, be there for them. Sincerely advise, and support.
Easier said than done but we need to start somewhere and soon In shaa Allaah ان شاء الله ……
Baarak Allaahu Feekum بارك الله فيكم
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