As salaamu ‘alaykum السلام عليكم ,
That which is in the heart will manifest eventually. That being said, there are things we go through in life that WILL have an effect on us. No matter how hard we try to hide these effects , these effects will eventually become apparent.
Being that we have to interact with others on a daily, those effects can be taken out on others both in a positive or negative way. So there are times that we will experience someone that lashed out on us. You may not have done anything wrong toward this individual. Something as simple as a quick dealing with a cashier can turn sour if she’s rude. Or vise versa. Because this what I’m mentioning could be toward ourselves doing this to others! So we are not exempt and I pray this be a reminder to us firstly.
Or maybe you have a “friend”, (I say “friend” with quotation marks because often times we feel someone is a dear friend but it’s not a healthy relationship. No growth , negative commentary, never there when you need them, evil intent etc. ) and she’s snapping on you or talking down to you . Don’t take it personal…….
What I mean is that, when you genuinely know for a fact that you didn’t do anything to harm this individual , (don’t be in denial , you should always ensure this by asking because maybe you have and didn’t realize. In this case hasten to apologize.) then understand that this person is going through something internal that you don’t know about. Or maybe you do, then in that case, be sympathetic and patient.
You never know, someone may have just received bad news right before they met with you and are trying to digest it. Or maybe they are having a failed marriage (the most common issue) and don’t know how to deal except that they bash others. Whatever the situation is, don’t take it personal because it’s not. As long as you’ve shown kindness to the person then that’s their problem not yours and frankly , just let it go.
So the next time someone gives you an attitude whether they’re a friend, co-worker, cashier, bank teller, relative no matter who, don’t take it personal. Whatever they’re going through inside is deeper than their rudeness toward you. Believe me their external action is only the tip of the ice burg compared to what’s REALLY going on behind closed doors. Offer dua for them and all of us , they could just be having a rough day.
May Allaah الله grant us reliance upon Him, patience, and good mannerisms Aameen.
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